Guarding Your Heart and Your Wallet

A: So, our listener brings up an interesting point: looking for connection, maybe even true love, on dating sites, and how there are so many options, some even free.

B: That's a crucial distinction right there, between purpose-built dating platforms and general social media. When you're on a dedicated dating app, the intent is usually quite clear: people are there to meet romantic partners. These platforms often have some level of profile verification, or at least algorithmic matching that tries to connect compatible individuals.

A: But then there's the whole other side, the 'free' aspect, which often leans into general social media. And that's where the intent becomes a lot more ambiguous, right? Someone reaching out on TikTok, Instagram, or X might have completely different motivations, and the barrier to entry for scammers is virtually nonexistent.

B: Exactly. On social media, you're getting unsolicited DMs from people whose primary goal isn't necessarily romance, but often financial exploitation. There's no built-in system designed to vet romantic interest, only to connect, which scammers readily exploit to cast a wide net.

A: So, how do we actually stay safe then? The absolute golden rule, which seems obvious but still catches people out: never, ever send money or gift cards to someone you haven't met in person. Not for an emergency, not for travel, nothing.

B: That's non-negotiable. Beyond that, verification is key. Reverse image search their profile photos. Insist on video calls early on to confirm they are who they say they are. If they consistently refuse, that's a massive red flag.

A: And don't keep it a secret. Talk to friends or family about new online relationships. A fresh pair of eyes can spot things you might miss, especially when you're caught up in the emotional side. Trust your gut feeling too; if something feels off, it probably is.

B: Exactly. When you decide to meet, always make it a first date in a public place. Let someone know where you're going and who with. And crucially, arrange your own transportation to and from the meeting. Don't rely on them.